So many articles to this day report stories where the birth of a girl is still looked down upon. It’s the sad reality of today—but why? It’s not only amongst the uneducated that it happens, everyone in one way or another is guilty of it. Be it the father who wants a son, the physicians that accept bribes as per the family’s wishes, or the society that deems this way of thinking acceptable. Aisha (radyAllahu’anha) reports that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Whoever was given any female children and took good care of them, they will be a shield for him from the Hellfire.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim). As a believing man or woman, what bigger blessing could you possibly want greater than that? Instill in your daughters, sisters, wives the qualities to grow into a woman that embodies truthfulness, patience and tolerance, respect, modesty (afaf), generosity, humility, and smile. A woman that embodies haya, where the hijab, is not just a cloth she wears, but is an attitude towards her way of life.
Once a head rests on a firm set of shoulders, it goes to question how does one strengthen it or at the very least keep it there? Well, it is said that one of the people who will be under the shade of Allah is the one whose heart is attached to the masjd and the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said that “Praying at the beginning of the appointed time.” is what is the most beloved deed to Allah. (al-Bukhari). It’s little things that will make our Creator and His Prophet happy and if it has such great reward, then is there a reason to think twice? Absolutely not.
What else can be done? Indeed the men who practice charity and the women who practice charity and [they who] have loaned Allah a goodly loan- it will be multiplied for them, and they will have a noble reward. (57:18) However, everything must be done from the heart, with the best of intentions, to please your Creator and only your Creator. “The signs of the hypocrite are three: when he speaks he lies, when he promises he breaks his promise and when he is entrusted he betrays the trust.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim). Do not be amongst the hypocrites. Be true to others, yourself and your Creator. Spend in the way of Allah and do not throw [yourselves] with your [own] hands into destruction [by refraining]. And do good; indeed, Allah loves the doers of good. (2:195) As a Muslim woman, especially you must be patient, strong, and relay all of your confidence, your success in Him and improve your faults, ask for forgiveness and strength during your struggles. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) also said to al-Ashajj bin ‘Abd Qays, “You have two qualities that Allah and His Messenger love, forbearance and patience.” (Muslim)
Finally, I would like to end with the thought of love for your Creator and question your love for Him; keep yourself in check and know that all that you do is for Him, whole-heartedly. “Renounce the world and Allah will love you, and renounce what people possess and people will love you.” (Ibn Majah) It’s simple- the choice is yours.